Leadership-Part 3 of 3 [Motivational Writer]

April 17th, 2015

In Leadership part 2 of 3 I asked you to:-
1] Think about 3 reasons you should always question leadership orders before you do anything about them.
2] Think about 3 of your leadership qualities
3] Think about 3 leadership qualities you have seen in others
Now, let us discuss these three questions in more detail.
1. Let us question- Why is a particular person in a position of authority, is it because they are there due to their leadership qualities, or because they have managed to get there [for whatever silly reason i.e. [jobs for the boys] etc. Just take for example how the Australian’s fought at Gallipoli under the flowered British leadership. Our men were slaughtered! Yet, stupidly we follow another foreign leader into the Vietnam War. Wouldn’t you think Australia would learn from the first disaster? Yet, despite protests, from our men and those of USA men, the soldiers were marched off to war, and, to make matters worse, subscription was introduced. What was the outcome of this war? A lot of emotional difficulties from our Vietnam Vets, and deaths. Plus, we did not win the war, Vietnam is still run by the communist government, which is what the war was meant to stop, to stop the North invading the South.

April 2015, here we go again, sending our soldiers under foreign command, to fight and teach other soldiers how to fight their own wars. For what reason I ask? They ran away the first time, will it happen again? What a waste of money, time and death!

Leaders! Question them, question them and question them! In this situation, Australia does not have leaders, they have not learned from history. Lesson one – leaders learn from the past.
The so called leaders of the day, have not thought of alternatives, instead of blindly following some idiots who take our soldiers to their unnecessary death. Question the qualities of the leaders and see if there is another alternative to solving the problem. Lesson two – think of various alternatives, don’t go into things blindly.
I must say, the protests were loud and clear that we did not want to go to Vietnam and fight! It was not our war. Lesson three- Listen to others when making decisions that involved a whole nation, or whatever organisation that one works for.
So, 1. Learn from the past so you don’t make the same mistakes, 2. Think of alternatives to solving a problem and 3. Listen to other people’s input. Consider these three points, then question if a particular person is a good leader or not.

I use the horrible example of war to demonstrate what bad leaders do to us, they destroy nations! Here we are on the verge of a hundred years since Gallipoli, and still the Australian leaders have not learned anything from history, blindly they send our soldiers off under foreign command. Although I detest war, I am not saying that we should not fight under foreign command at the right time, what I am saying is that we need to follow someone who is in actual fact a true leader, whether they are foreign leaders or Australian leaders.
Question, question and question the people who are in the position of power and leadership. Why? Because some people are not leaders, they just bleat out crap, and that crap might be detrimental to your life, and your life counts! Whether they are so called leaders in war, in your job or clubs you might belong to, question them and their decisions. It is not the first person who has suicided in a job due to the bullying of a boss. Bosses are not all leaders!

2. Have you thought about your three leadership qualities, as I suggested in part 2 of 3? If you are not in a position of leadership, you might question why you would bother. It is because the person who is in charge of you at work or whatever situation you find yourself accountable to, might just have absolutely no leadership qualities whatsoever. So use your own inner leadership qualities to manage better in your situation. So, while you think of your three leadership qualities, let me use the above three examples to make my point.
1] Learn from the past- What has the person you are accountable to [in your job, clubs etc] done to annoy, upset you? A] Identify how they do this to you. B] Identify your reaction to them when they are upsetting you. Do you always respond to them in the same way, if so, it is time for you to think of some strategies to deal with them so they do not have the same negative effect on you. Instead of reacting to how they treat you, plan your response and act accordingly. Muster up the leadership within you and treat them differently. Do not let non leaders control and destroy your life. C] Think of various alternatives- Change your mind set in how you are going to act to them in future.
Oh I know, they are the ones who are supposed to be the leaders and take the responsibility. The fact is, if they are not leaders they will not take responsibility and still annoy you. So you in fact have to deal with the dysfunctional leadership by acting as a leader yourself.

3. In Leadership part 2 of 3, I suggested that you think about three leadership qualities you see in others. I am actually not going to name three, what I am going to do, is ask you to do so, if you have not already done so when you read part 2 of 3. Why am I doing this? I don’t want to lead you, I want you to look within yourself, find your own leadership qualities so that you can deal with any situation in life, especially if you are unfortunate enough to work under a dysfunctional leader or system of leaders.
My message is loud and clear, do not put up with crap from people who are in positions of power/leadership that do not have the skills to go with their job. It is detrimental to your health and wellbeing. I know I was shocked when my friend suicided due to constant bullying from her so called boss/leader. Here we are, 100 years after Gallipoli, and still, the lesson by Australians so called politicians of the day have not been learnt their lessons. Do not send our soldiers to war, before you question and question why you are doing this! What skills do the so called leaders who take them to war have?

You only live once, live life to the max! Question leadership in others, and become a leader yourself by looking within for your own answers

Leadership-Part 2 of 3 [Motivational Writer]

February 10th, 2015

The question is why?
• Why are we waiting, waiting and waiting, for someone to take over the Leadership of premier to run the state of Queensland.
• Why was it a matter of, waiting, waiting and waiting for the police at Martin Place to rescue the people at Café Lindt. [Police looked like they were too scared to rescue anyone] This is only my opinion but perhaps the armed forces were more equipped. What is up with some of the Leaders in Australia? Who is making the big decisions?
• Why was Gallipoli, simply mass slaughter of our men who took orders from incompetent leaders of the day [so called UK Leaders] One after another our men, were gunned down following stupid orders from leaders who had a dysfunction plan of action.
So many examples of dysfunctional leaders can be seen throughout history in many countries and organisations around the world. So what has this got to do with you?
In Leadership part 1 of 3, I spoke about leadership that comes from within, and gave you three points to think about. Keep those points in mind while you consider the following;
1] Think about 3 reasons you should always question leadership orders before you do anything about them.
2] Think about 3 of your leadership qualities
3] Think about 3 leadership qualities you have seen in others
In part 3 of 3, I will speak further about internal leadership and why it is important to develop some basic qualities in this area. In the meantime, remain the master of your own lives and continue developing your own internal leadership qualities

Leadership-Part 1 of 3 [Motivational Writer]

February 4th, 2015

What does leadership mean to you? Early this morning when I was walking the dog, I met up with another walker and asked her how she was. Neither good nor bad, Australia used to be a land of honey and milk, now it is only milk she replied. This naturally took our conversation straight to politics.
Who is running Queensland at the moment? The premier packed up and left as soon as he was voted out, not even a proper handover, if one was done at all. So who is caretaking the state? The new premier cannot take over given all the counting is not complete, and the minor parties at this stage are not saying who they would side with. Yet, here we are, all doing our own thing while the government of the day gets themselves sorted out to rule us, and do for us what they think is in our best interest.
The type of leadership I am speaking about, comes from within. We cannot wait for governments irrespective of what party they belong to, to provide for us, and make good or useless decisions on our behalf.
• We need to be our own leader, take action for ourselves and just continue living our lives to the max.
• We need to seek our own counsel often, sure listen and take advise from others, but the final decisions of what we are going to do, is ours, after all we know ourselves best, and we know what is best for us
• We need to be proactive, if we need or want something, just plan how we are going to do it and go for it. It is great for the government of the day to provide what they promise, but there is no guarantee of anything.

Sure we need leadership to run the state, the country, organisations etc. However, do not mistake external leaders to rule your life, or wait around for them to provide you with a better or worse life. Take charge! Be your own leader and direct your life to you wildest dreams!

Change- part 3 of 3 – [Motivational Writer]

January 24th, 2015

In part 2 of 3 in my blog ‘Change’ I stated that; if you don’t change with the times, you will stagnate, there is no standing still, you are either moving forward, or sliding backwards. I also stated that making changes and improvements in your life at a steady pace instead of wild New Year’s solutions would be much more effective, and more likely to work. So what is your plan to live a lifestyle to your liking once and for all?
Where do you see yourself a year from now?
When I was a practicing Social Worker, I heard all the reasons why some people could not be happy and successful etc.
However, I also had clients who succeeded in life despite some really harrowing circumstances they found themselves in. So why did these particular people succeed? They changed their mindset to a positive one, they became self-motivated, and they became empowered and took action to live a more productive happier life.
It does not matter what has happened in the past, start making steady changes now, one step at a time! Just imagine- 52 weeks in a year means- 52 small changes in a year. WOW! You will be a very different person after a year, don’t you agree? Anything can happen!

2015 What a Blast! It is about attitude! Part 3 of 3

January 7th, 2015

In part 2 of 3 of 2015 What a Blast! It is about attitude! I wrote about how negativity compounds on negativity, just like being positive, also compounds on being a positive, empowered person. When I wrote part 2 of 3, I had no idea I was going to experience the following.

While doing my weekly shopping, I noticed a child fall flat on her back, I thought it odd as children fall forward, but I did not see the beginning of the fall, so the child had my full attention.  Immediately, the mother quickly pulled the crying child along the floor by a belt [restrainer for the child not to run away] that was tied around the child’s waist. While my brain was getting itself into gear deciding whether to revert back to my social work days, act professionally and intervene, or simply to react personally and tell the woman what I thought of her as a parent. I walked over to the woman and began speaking with her and the child making sure the child was ok, while at the same time speaking with the mother in general, but in reality assessing the situation and the mother. To cut a long story short, this lady was in desperate need of assistance, and now receiving it.

Oh yes! 2015, is going to be a blast! However, my question to you is; what are you going to do for someone else, to make their 2015 a blast.

2015 What a Blast! It is about Attitude! -Part 2 of 3

January 3rd, 2015

In part one of ‘2015 What a Blast!’  I wrote a poem about my dog waking me up at 4am. If you think about it, the poem had a lot to do with attitude. I had a choice to be annoyed at being woken up at that early hour or being happy. In the poem you will notice that I woke up with joy, and I even went further to state that I patted my dog in all her favourite places and wished peace, yes, to all the world’s races.

 Now I don’t know about you, but I am certainly not my best at 4am, and could have gotten quite annoyed at the dog, but chose not to. This is only a minor incident, but it certainly reflects life, doesn’t it? There are so many little things in life we get annoyed at, when in fact, we can just reframe the situation into something more positive.

Negativity, compounds, negativity and before you know it- you are just one big negative person, is that what you want for the next year?

Being positive, also compounds on being a positive, empowered person. This is the way to go, oh what a blast! It does not matter what obstacles come your way – big or small, be positive! 2015, is your year to succeed!

 

 

2015 What a Blast! – Part 1 of 3 [Motivational Writer]

January 1st, 2015

I woke to 2015 with such joy

My dog jumping on my bed with her favourite toy

4am, you’ve got to be joking!

But with my dog, there is no room for moping

Bleary- eyed I saw the outline of her black shape

2015 – Oh this year is going to be just great!

I patted her, in all her favourite places

As I wished peace, yes, to all the world’s races.

 

 

 

 

Change- part 2 of 3 –[Motivational Writer]

December 27th, 2014

The only thing in life that is guaranteed is: change, taxes and death. Yes I know, if you feel comfortable in what you are doing, and don’t like change, why do it? Just look around at nature, it is full of changes- Autumn, Winter, Spring and Summer- the seasons change. We all grow older whether we like it or not, this is life. The thing is; if you don’t change with the times, you will stagnate, there is no standing still, you are either moving forward, or sliding backwards.

So what changes are you going to make in 2015? No, not new year resolutions, life time changes, little changes that mount up through the year, that make a big impact by the end of 2015. Changes that you will continue to change in 2016 and onwards throughout life.

Making changes and improvements in your life at a steady pace instead of wild new year resolutions, are more likely to work. Try it!

Make 2015 Rock- part 3 of 3 [Motivational Writer]

December 25th, 2014

How are you going to make 2015 Rock? Leave all that does not serve you behind in 2014. If it has gone past its used by date, whether it is a job, a relationship, a particular thing you do, an attitude, if it is an obstacle in your life- leave it behind. Go into the new year fresh! Fresh ideas, fresh in health and full of action! Leave the crap behind! Take 2015 and make it work for you, and make it work well! Give it all you’ve got, and take from it what you deserve!

Make 2015 Rock part 2 of 3. [Motivational writer]

December 19th, 2014

A couple of days ago, I was very impressed with a nurse, in the way  she spoke so kindly, the way she seemed so caring- so naturally I had to ask her about the words that were tattooed on her arm. ‘HOPE is the ANCHOR to your SOUL’ She told me that her clients were able to achieve great things with just hope, despite all odds. I reflected on my social work days, and thought about the clients who clung on to hope and achieved great outcomes and those who thought their plight were simply hopeless. In 2015, do not wait for someone to motivate you, feel the hope surge in your body-2015 will be your year of success, no matter what your past has been. Remember  ‘HOPE is the ANCHOR to your SOUL’