In my last blog, ‘Dream it, Action it, and be Realistic – Part 2 of 3’, I said:
• that there were two things, which were totally out of my control that prevented me from my weekly blogging. But they were not going to prevent me from continuing with my goals; all they did was put me behind a few weeks.
• that I intended to apply my own formula to my personal situation as an example of how you can successfully pursue your goals through 2014, doing away with useless New Year’s resolutions forever.
I am now going to challenge you to really think about, and act on, one of your goals, conquering the wretched thing. I have already told you how to achieve it in part 1 of 3; plus, I have been building up to this in previous blogs. (‘New Mind Set’ and ‘Unfinished Business’)
Now I am going to walk alongside you and work towards achieving a personal goal of my own to show you it can be done. Furthermore, it will be done if you are prepared to work really hard at it, using the formula I have given you.
Now, remember the three-month blocks of working on your goals and projects, reviewing and refining them on a regular basis
January February March
Goal one + review and refine at end of month Goal one + review and refine at end of month Overall review of goal one and refine
Whatever goal you chose, keep on working on it until the end of March. It is at this stage – at the end of month 3 where you do your big review – that you will decide what your next step with that goal will be. It could be you need more time to work on it; so refine and work on it more, taking it into the next set of three months. You might only need an extra month on it. If you have to choose between meeting a deadline to achieve your goal and doing a good job on it, I prefer doing a good job every time. This is a very different process from making New Year’s resolutions that simply do not work. Most of them are way too onerous to stick to beyond a day or two.
Now, if you are getting close to your goal or will achieve it by the end of March, that is great! You’ve followed the plan and are on course to achieve several goals throughout the year, reviewing and refining them on an ongoing basis.
So, here is the challenge for you – the action part! Start to think about what goal you are going to choose in the next set of three months. If you have not already done so, perhaps you have already modified some of the goals you set earlier.
The idea is to review, refine, review and refine your goals over and over again. That way you will make small changes as you go along and allow for unexpected things that come along the way. It is just so much more manageable.
Here is how I intend to walk alongside you and show that this formula works. I intend to lose between 30 and 38 kilos within the next 12 months. That is 3 blocks of 4 with the formula I gave you. So whatever your goal is, I will walk alongside of you, working on my goal as we apply the formula together.
Remember to be realistic! You want to be sensible in what you are doing and the things to remember along the way are:
1. to be flexible, knowing when to be persistent and when to walk away from your goals or situations.
2. to learn from your mistakes and move on. Do not give up; go in a different direction if that is what is going to work for you.
3. to define the difference between perfectionism and stupidity.
Do you have a hell of a challenge ahead of you? I sure do! 30 to 38 kilos is not going to be easy to shed (especially given I am a diabetic) and with all the setbacks and things that may go wrong. What are your challenges? Acknowledge the ones you know before you start. It will help you with your planning. I am going to get a head start and do it now before the next three months start. Yes, you can do that too. Next week, I will even post a fat photo of myself so you can see the difference every three months on the big reviews.
Until next week, here’s to a more productive life, everyone! It always helps when you have a buddy to work with.